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Pauvres ti-poulets...

Satellite Voyageur — Tue, 26 Aug 2008 17:46:39 +0000

Bon, ça suffit la tristesse et les billets personnels ! Revenons aux racines de ce blogue pour l'amour ! ;) Bon, je ne parlerai pas des déclarations stupides de Mario Dumont quant à l'éducation et les émeutes de Montréal-Nord (oui, je sais, c'est un pléonasme de dire les mots "stupides" et Mario Dumont dans la même phrase). D'autres blogueurs ont déjà abordé le sujet comme cités dans cet article d'opinions de Cécile Gladel. En fait, je voulais revenir sur un sujet qui a été abordé, mais qui m'a encore plus frappé en regardant les nouvelles hier soir. En fait, c'est ce reportage qui m'a frappé et la lecture d'une autre lettre ici: les deux parlent de lettres de flics qui en ont gros sur le coeur de passer pour les "méchants pas fins", qui rappellent que les policiers sont des forces de l'ordre et que la force doit être utilisée pour réprimer les mécréants. J'aime bien aussi cette expression retrouvée dans une chronique de Richard Martineau que le président de la Fraternité des policiers de Montréal utilise: "la police est un organisme paramilitaire".

Bon, j'entends bien ce que les policiers disent: ils en ont assez de l'irrespect total qu'ils subissent par les citoyens du Québec. J'avoue que je ne suis pas certain que je la ferais la job: recevoir des doigts d'honneur à tour de bras, se faire traiter de tous les animaux de la ferme, se faire cracher dessus dans les médias... J'entends bien qu'ils ont fait du mieux qu'ils pouvaient dans les situations (dont celle de Villanueva). Sauf que là où je décroche, c'est premièrement quand je lis dans la lettre que M. Lagacé a reçu qu'un policier a le droit et le devoir d'user de son arme à feu s'il y a menace. OK, ouais, mais 3 coups de feu pour une personne ? Je ne sais pas s'ils reçoivent des cours d'anatomie à l'école de police, mais c'est un peu exagéré. Déjà une balle bien placée peut t'arrêter un homme sec et raide... 3 dans la même personne, c'est un peu beaucoup de l'exagération. Évidemment, il y aura les partisans de la situation extrême; ceux qui diront qu'avec l'adrénaline, on réagit sans réfléchir. Mais c'est là que ça m'embête: ils sont justement censés être formés pour résister au stress d'une intervention et ne pas tirer stupidement ! Parce que si on me sort cette excuse à chaque fusillade, on serait peut-être mieux de sortir de chez soir avec des vestes pare-balles, tout à coup qu'un policier s'énerverait.

Puis, ça va au-delà de ça la "haine" envers les policiers. C'est tout le côté secret, justement, des fraternités qui se protègent même quand un de leurs collègues a clairement mal agi. J'en ai déjà parlé, mais comment croire à l'intégrité de la police qui s'enquête elle-même ? Comment croire qu'ils veulent nous protéger quand ils semblent baver sur l'utilisation du "taser" et du pistolet, ennuyés par la matraque et le poivre de Cayenne ? Ils disent vouloir baisser la mortalité sur les routes, mais au lieu de patrouiller dans les endroits chauds où il y a bien des accidents, ça s'installe derrière un viaduc sur l'autoroute pour être sûr de d'attraper quelqu'un qui dépasse les limites de vitesse et respecter les quotas de contraventions qui "n'existeraient pas"... selon eux, bien sûr. Oui, je comprends que c'est une question d'argent et d'effectifs, mais il y a quand même là une certaine hypocrisie, non ?

Ils ont raison sur un point: ce ne sont pas des travailleurs de rue. Bien d'accord ! Ce n'est pas à eux à régler les problèmes de pauvreté, d'adaptation sociale et etc. Ils doivent s'occuper des crimes. Mais leur radicalisation, aidée par un gouvernement conservateur qui se rallient leurs votes en votant des projets de loi pour une "super" répression, n'aide pas non plus. Désolé, mais on n'est pas en Colombie ou aux États-Unis où le règne de l'arme à feu subsiste en maître. De toute façon, on voit que même avec "une police qui fait peur", les crimes violents persistent toujours chez nos voisins du sud....

Alors, quand j'entends le président de la police parler d'organisme paramilitaire, je me demande s'ils ne rêvent pas toujours secrètement de revenir aux événements de la crise d'octobre 1970 où ils pouvaient arrêter tous ceux qu'ils croyaient être des terroristes, à la bonne vieille époque où ils pouvaient frapper avant et questionner ensuite... Or, moi je crois qu'ils peuvent inspirer l'autorité et être une source d'autorité sans se radicaliser. Cependant, ça fait appel au jugement... et tant que la police n'arrivera pas à avoir du jugement et ne pas tomber dans les extrêmes, elle continuera de se faire crier des noms. Pauvres ti-poulets...

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i will lie awake #132

Patrick — Tue, 26 Aug 2008 05:14:51 +0000

Conundrum Update, etc.

Tilia — Mon, 25 Aug 2008 21:03:07 +0000

Posted by Tilia

1.)

So, yeah, I was right about jumping the gun. Got a text from not-Heath earlier today asking me what I was up to tonight, (or more specifically, "what r u up 2 2night?" - Minus two points for not-Heath, due to grammar. At least he didn't spell "what" as "wot.").

Unfortunately, I already had plans this evening, introducing Tim to Jane and going for a few drinks, so I replied (with perfect grammar), that I was meeting friends tonight, but that the rest of my week was free, at the moment. I still haven't heard back. Argh.

Perhaps this will make me seem harder to get and more desirable. We'll see.

2.)

Whilst returning home from Dominos earlier today, with my lunch, the door to the small bathroom at the head of the stairs swung open to reveal the male half of Eastern European Couple, wearing naught but a gray pair of men's bikini briefs, and a Lion King beach towel slung around his neck.

He stood, grandly, in the doorway as I continued to ascend the stairs and said, "Hi," unabashedly as I passed him, hands on his hips.

"Hey," I responded, averting my eyes, and hurrying past.

3.)

After my shower, I walked from the same bathroom up to my room, wearing nothing but a towel. Eastern European Boyfriend was leaning, fully clothed, and inexplicably, against the wall. "Hey," he said, casually.

"Hi," I muttered, mortified, and rushed into my room.

He laughed.

4.)

I think Tim potentially really digs me. He's invited me over to his house this weekend, which he has all to himself (and he referred to this as a very rare "window of opportunity") to hit the town and go to a football game the following day.

To be honest, there is a bit of a spark with Tim, but it's not strong enough for me to feel comfortable jumping into something, and as he's one of maybe 2 1/2 friends I have in this city, I'd rather not muck it up by taking it out of the platonic realm.

It's mostly a cerebral attraction, not really something that makes me want to explore my yet unknown physical preferences, and besides, I'm only 22, and want some casual fun first.

I feel bad now about how out of his way it's been for him to come hang out with me the two times he has over as many weeks, because I suppose that says something. And on both occasions, he's covered all of my drinks, all the while making jokes about the giant bender I'm going to have to take him out on, when I have a job and am settled.

So, I should probably decline the invitation for this weekend, but I need to have a damn good excuse first, since I haven't answered yet. Ugh, I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, especially someone I care about ...

Ignorance Is Not an Excuse

Rachael — Mon, 25 Aug 2008 17:23:19 +0000

I found it interesting while reading through the Old Testament law that the commands that God gave His people He expected them to keep. Ignorance of the law was not an excuse. As soon as the person who had broken the law found out about it, he wasn't given a freebie and told, "Since you didn't know the law, it's okay this time, but next time do better." Instead, once the person found out that he had broken the law, he was required to make atonement for his transgression. I found that principle interesting. Though he acted in ignorance, he was still a transgressor who had to make atonement. Ignorance of God's law was not an excuse from keeping it.

I pondered this principle for quite some time, thinking of the state of the church. There are so many people who profess to be Christians and yet, they don't know God's Word. They don't study it. They are ignorant of what it says. One night while studying the Bible with my husband, I stumbled across something else that Christ said that seemed to further demonstrate this theme. In Luke 12, Christ tells His disciples a parable about a master returning to home to his servants from a wedding banquet, telling them to watch and be ready for their master's return.

"The Lord answered, “Who then is the faithful and wise manager, whom the master puts in charge of his servants to give them their food allowance at the proper time? It will be good for that servant whom the master finds doing so when he returns. I tell you the truth, he will put him in charge of all his possessions. But suppose the servant says to himself, ‘My master is taking a long time in coming,’ and he then begins to beat the menservants and maidservants and to eat and drink and get drunk. The master of that servant will come on a day when he does not expect him and at an hour he is not aware of. He will cut him to pieces and assign him a place with the unbelievers. That servant who knows his master's will and does not get ready or does not do what his master wants will be beaten with many blows. But the one who does not know and does things deserving punishment will be beaten with few blows. From everyone who has been given much, much will be demanded; and from the one who has been entrusted with much, much more will be asked." Luke 12:42-18

So 3 types of servants are briefly mentioned here:

The servant who knows and does his master's will.
The servant who abuses his master's absence and mistreats his fellow servants and becomes a drunkard.
The servant who does not know his master's will and in ignorance does "things deserving punishment."

Notice the fates of these servants:

The servant who knew and did his master's will was rewarded.
The servant who knew and did not do his master's will was severely punished.
The servant who did not know his master's will and did not do it was also punished, albeit, lightly.

So that brings us back to main point of this post: ignorance is not an excuse. Those ignorant of God's Word will be punished still.

God expects us, His servants, to know His will and requirements by studying His Word. Saying to God "but I didn't know" when we have access to the Scriptures is completely inexcusable.

Let us study His Word so that we may do His will and be ready for the Master's return!

Girls Are The Freaks , Guys Get Lured IN !

wordsofdivine — Sun, 24 Aug 2008 15:52:15 +0000

Well, The Title explains it all . Lately , Ive been hearing girls talking about how Guys are the Freaks. Wrong !(us) Dre & Don Have come to a Precise Clear-Cut Actuality that Girls are the freaks . Nothing else needs to be said . For all of you girls out there , Im sure you already have come to that conclusion . Our studies show that girls are 50% equally freaks to guys when sober . But as soon as they get in contact with some kind of government illicit drug , OR alcohol ! Their sexual wants arise to an amazing 100% changing mindset towards guys . Haha ! Good day to you all . Today is Sunday August 24, 08 & school starts in 3 days for MoCo. Have a good weekend ! (try not to think of school , Instead think of what to wear ! lol)

BONUS : When parties get shutdown , have something else planned , Ever heard that saying "Plan for the worst hope for the best" , Its nothing but the truth ! Over & Out !

A Love Story

embajadadelreino — Fri, 22 Aug 2008 18:58:30 +0000

[slideshare id=303573&doc=a-love-story-1205335304454505-4&w=425]

Who loves you so much he gave you life and left heaven to die for you? It was Jesus!

Just Do It!!

Re — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 16:51:56 +0000

Why is it that when our eyes have been opened to the bad behavior of others we judge and/or make excuses for there behavior?”

Take a minute and think of someone that you have recently had a negative feeling about - spouse or spice, parent, child, family, or friend. Could it be that the very behavior that angered, frustrated, irritated, and/or caused you to withdraw from that friendship be Gods way of HEALING (the process of curing somebody/having the effect of improving something) you of your negative behavior. Learn to stop and take a look within before you open your mouth about the next – you just might realize that you are reaping a harvest!!

God has a way of showing us what needs to be corrected in our lives through those that we are close too. So instead of criticizing the person or running from the situation go ahead and make that inner change so that they can be changed too!! Ok, ok I hear you saying not me; I would never do what he/she did/does. Well good that’s even better because that just means that you have been put in that person’s life to help them with there negative behavior. So again instead of criticizing the person or running from the situation go ahead and step up to the plate by offering unconditional (complete with no conditions or limitations) support so that they can be changed too!!

God stirs or troubles the water and if you learn to step in or embrace it you will have your HEALING. It’s easy to quit and give up because pain causes feelings that we don’t want to identify with, but if you want to better your future you have to disturb your presence. So weather you are the one that needs to do the changing or the one that needs to offer support - the process will be uncomfortable and painful, but know that there is healing in the midst of your pain/troubles!! Never run away from your problems because of the way it is disguised because believe it or not, birds of a feather flock together. No More Excuses Just Do It!!

What is Congestion?

fuffuftut — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 11:02:21 +0000

Congestion is relatively easy to recognize—roads filled with cars, trucks, and buses, sidewalks filled with pedestrians. The definitions of the term congestion mention such words as “clog,” “impede,” and “excessive fullness.” For anyone who has ever sat in congested traffic, those words should sound familiar. In the transportation realm, congestion usually relates to an excess of vehicles on a portion of roadway at a particular time resulting in speeds that are slower—sometimes much slower—than normal or “free flow” speeds. Congestion often means stopped or stop-and-go traffic.

Previous work has shown that congestion is the result of seven root causes, often interacting with one another.

Chloe

Criss Source

Dario Nunez

Dario Nunez Feat. Pacheco

Jerome Isma Ae And Melih Ask

Declaime Presents: Mad Men

Earl Sixteen

Jimmy The Sound vs Daniele Mondello

John Medeski, Billy Martin and Chris Wood

Medeski Martin and Wood

Dave Liebman and Richie Beirach

Eligh

Kolombo vs Nemio

Progression

Bill Monroe and Doc Watson

Jim Reeves and Pasty Cline

Medeski Scofield Martin and Wood

The Album Leaf And On!air!library!

Bring Me the Horizon

Plastic Little

Stat Quo And DJ Drama

Terry Numan vs Dario Nunez

The Sushi Club

Da Groovemakers And DJ Fist

De'Lacy

Lynda Lemay and Other

Gil Scott Heron & Brian Jackson

Sergio Fernandez And Angelo Posito

Ted Poley

Marc Ullrich

Bullets and Octane

Ariel Pink's Haunted Graffiti

Chuck Prophet

Club 8

Denise Reis

Darlene Zschech and West Australian Symphony Orchestra

Huggotron

Sakakibara Yui

Black Keys

The Temptations, The Supremes and Diana Ross

Amy Nuttall

Aqua Timez

Charlie Palmieri Quartet

Jonny Lang and Chuck Prophet

Cross Canadian Ragweed

Charlie And Eddie Palmieri's

Claudio Rocchi

Federation

Jamie Cullum And Katie Melua

Don McLean

Sonny Stitt and Friends

Chet Atkins and Jerry Reed

Ariel Pink's Haunted Graffiti 2

Chat Atkins and Jerry Reed

Dodgy

Jerry Reed

Elektrochemie Lk, Martini Bros

Diplomats Present Hell Rell

Mustafa Sandal Feat Gentlemen

John Ralston

Gene Ammons

Gene Ammons All Stars

Jon Lord and The Hoochie Coochie Men

Josh Pyke

Kevin Michael

Train

Ali Akbar Khan & Asha Bhosle

Electric Frankenstein and The Hookers

Fauxliage

Graciela Beltran

Jahcoozi

Juke Joint feat. Tara Hughes

Kiotti

La Autoridad de la Sierra

Lil' Chris

Rita Coolidge

Roberta Gambarini and Hank Jones

Roz Bell

Sam Brown

Sharon Jones and The Dap Kings

Solieb

TNT Jackson

The Most Serene Republic

Biglietto Per L'Inferno

Joe Byrd and The Field Hippies

DJ Drama and Little Brother

DK7

Freygolo

Too Through With You

kiqroqzgraphiqz — Fri, 15 Aug 2008 00:36:39 +0000

I'm at home on my computer cause even the thought of using that despicable computer of my "boyfriends" makes my stomach hurt. Yea, this is another thread about him. Its not going to many more of these.

This nigga's actions speak so much louder than words. Its not like he don't know shit. Its not like keep the nigga in the dark about shit. He don't care. He'll get all gussied up to go to some funky ass comedy show but when we go out he just wash under his arms and put on something that he had on that following day or just say he ready. I mean even though we are just going to the movies. At least care enough about your appearance. I mean shit when I leave from here it look like I'm going some where important and all I'm doing is to go see him and to just sit in the apartment the whole day playing video games.

I was sitting at the bus stop thinking about so much shit it almost brung tears to my eyes. I'm sick of blogging this shit out. If he didn't make it feel like telling him would be a waste of his time listening maybe I would tell him. If he didn't make me feel like my feelings are something not getting so worked up over then maybe I would have enough courage to tell him about himself.

He makes me so damned angry. I never gotten this angry over anyone I've ever been with. This relationship is truly not meant to be. I pictured me telling him to his face that I can't do it any more and that I'm not in love with him any more and just breaking into tears. I never almost cried or gotten this angry over any relationship. EVER.

Being there more often and around him made me see the person for who he really is. Yea yea he tries and what not but it don't last. It only last when I say something and if I keep saying something. But no he don't do it cause it hurts me, he only do it to fill the void. Yea he don't shit to call his own, no money, nothing to show for what he went to school for but I loved him anyway for the personality I thought I knew but I don't any more. I don't know who the fuck he is at all. I thought I didn't know him before; well its beyond that. I never felt so much anger when I half-look at him.

He don't compliment me or nothing, we don't converse like adults. We don't connect. Only on a lets call each other names and bash each other level. Not on an serious level, that shit don't exist. If I was to say that to him, he would say either I would get mad or why don't I say these things? It wouldn't matter because he already got it set in his mind that he know me. Actually telling him the reasons why would fly right over his short ass. I don't get angry all the time.

Lately though, he hasn't been considering nothing of me. This feeling of neglect has a strong hold on me and yes he has been neglecting me this past week and this week. I only see him so often now. Whats fucked up, I'M THERE! Not over here, but there. He'll stay in the same room with me for five damned seconds but his love of his life, that sad, abuse, poor excuse for a computer beckons him every single minute that he's around. I try to think of things to keep my mind occupied and what not, I try to do things to keep me from getting angry. I try so hard but I can't deny the fact that this relationship is for the birds.

I put my all in the relationships I get in. Even when I have my doubts. i try helping out the best way I can. I try. He don't realize what he has in front of him. He don't care, he only trying to get in where he fit in. With his small ass, thats every where. I can't win, at all. Its either say something and get told you're wrong in all types of ways but one. Or not say anything and feel worse than if you open your mouth. I'm not the one to give up on things like this. Like he say I give up to easily. No the hell I don't, I'm just sick of fighting for affection, attention, love. Cause he say it but I seriously don't believe it. When I hear it, I hear, I hate you, I hurt you, I don't love you. When I read it, its as blank as my face right now. The spark that once was in love with this nigga is gone. I don't even know if I just love him not. I would have to sit and think about that.

He never even told me why he love me or even like me around. I shake my head cause I'm realizing so much shit its sickening. I'm tired, the more I think the more I so ready to give up & now that I've thought about it for the last two weeks or so. Its time to completely forget about him.

Hello world again!

bartholomewbernsteyn — Tue, 12 Aug 2008 13:42:16 +0000

So, I have finally considered to give this blogging thing a new try and yes, here we are.

I had a thousand sheets hidden all over the several . I don't know why I happen to have this feeling, somehow I need to share things with the rest of the world; here it's so arbitrarily connected - which I feel is a good thing.

Problems/ #1

nkartist06 — Mon, 11 Aug 2008 06:07:27 +0000

American Society today has developed it's own unique problems. Commonly I blame ignorance for the problems that modern day Americans face everyday. This is a catch all excuse for what is ailing us. I would like readers to take time to think out what I am trying to express in this and the following blogs. It is meant to draw attentions to things that I have yet to find people focusing their efforts on, maybe I am just blind to those working to fix this problems, if this is the case please feel free to tell me.

Problem #1: Labeling a person as Unique but treating them the same as everyone else.

I hyperactive child is labeled as having a server chemical imbalance, when in fact each person is biologically different from everyone else. A common exercise I use to show that people could be very different, is the way we see colors. Red, White, Green and Blue are all different wavelengths of color. Your eye which is made up of cones and rods pick up each one of the colors and sends them to your occipital lope through a series of electronic passage ways that were established and maintained throughout your life. From childhood you are told that one wavelength is blue and an other one is red. Your mind will see the same wavelength, but it may see it different then your own mother. You are both looking at the same wave length and calling it by the same name but what you see could very well be very different. I see a wavelength and it always looks like one color; you see the same wavelength and it looks like a different color, then the one I see but we call it the same. The point of this example is that if the colors are very different but we call them the same, we will not accept that we are different.

Hyperactivity is simply acting more then the 'norm'. First off if people are all different then there would be a median not a 'norm'. Second, hyperactivity can be caused by an number of things, but it is all treated in a similar manner. Sugar, which is in fruits and candy bars, could be in too high of a concentration for the child. Caffeine, which is commonly found in everyday items like bread (please wait for the problem on food before taking dietary action), could be in a high concentration. People react differently to different foods, they even act differently to the same food at a different time. Another causes could be stress, too much sleep, not enough sleep, domestic problems, emotional problems (normally suppression, not an actual disorder.) or under-stimulation (your child is not using all of his/her brain at that point.)

The treatment is medicate and label. Medicating is something I have a few qualms with personally, past experiences have shown that it is quickly prescribed and most people are the post-FDA trials. People are biologically different; the cause and proper treatment of a 'disorder' will require more then 40 minutes in the line at the pharmacy once a month.

Some doctors tell you that medication is just a treatment for the effects, but most of the time it is done improperly or the person/ people involved are more worried about being late so they miss or forget that part. Change of diet, talking to see if there is a problem, change of sleep patterns, assessing the level of difficulty and your child's comprehension rate and setting exercise routines are things that should be addressed, if only to be an additive to the medication.

The overlaying problem with the system in place: People who are labeled with a disorder tend to live their life to the point where the label becomes all they can do. 'disorder' is a strong word and it has a lot of negative meanings attached to it. Which sounds worse to you 'Johny has a mental disorder' or 'Johny has a hard time paying attention in class.'

Many problems of children do not get addressed because it makes the parent look bad. Yeah there is a good chance that your childs 'disorder' is caused by something you, or the other adults in your child's life, did. There is even more of a chance that if the problem goes without being addressed that it will be passed on to your grandchildren. Either the same emotional problems, or an emotional problem based on the repression of emotional response to your emotional problem.

Most suffer from emotional problems, most are to ignorant to discuss it and find a solution to it.

-NK

Too late,too hip, too yesterday, I DON'T CARE!

reelgypsy — Mon, 11 Aug 2008 04:38:23 +0000

O.k. I've been wanting to do this the "proper way" (i.e:not like a diary or an outlet for my romantic cries) for a while now.Well, for a couple of years to be exact. It's been postponed for various reasons, chief among them a lack of a personal website (which is yet to come and this was supposed to be a part of ) and of course loads and load of procrastination. I'm glad to report that I'm tired of distracting myself. So let's get this ball rolling.

P.S: The image above is part of a collage work by my friend Henry Hemming and has been published in his amazing book called "Offscreen". He doesn't know that it's there but I hereby thank him anyways.

But I Don't Feel Like Dancing......

kromatyk — Sun, 10 Aug 2008 23:47:59 +0000

Ouais Ouais Ouais...

Je me sens tell'ment mal... J'ai l'impression d'avoir trop les pieds sur terre...

Je pense que j'ai pété la bulle à 3 de mes amies aujourd'hui... Juste aujourd'hui...

Désolé Karyann.. J'suis sur que le gars t'as remarqué dans le métro bourré de monde à 8heure à matin

station Mont Royal

Je m'excuse Julie...C'est pas parce que ça fait exactement 7 fois que tu me dis que tu vas arrêter de

fumer que cette fois-ci je ne crois pas en toi...

Même s'il ne le lira pas : Désolé p'tit frère.... T'as raison.. Le dessin me ressemble entièrement....

Surtout que j'ai les cheveux brun et non roux.. Mais.. c'est un détail

Euh... un peu tard ce soir

lhamolhamo — Sat, 02 Aug 2008 22:19:43 +0000

Ton silence me fait peur.

Où es-tu mon amour? Je suis là avec toi dans ton rêve?

J'ai passé une superbe soirée avec ma copine Yang (et son copain actu Patrice) dans une famille laotienne. Tout le monde est ouvert, sympa, et surtout on mange très bien! Je te raconterai la prochaine fois. J'ai laissé mon numéro de téléphone à Chou, une copine laotienne très ouverte et chaleureuse. Elle m'a dit qu'elle m'invitera chaque fois quand il y a des soirées ou cérémonies chez elle.

La seule chose un peu dommage, c'est que je n'ai pas pu te téléphoner après la soirée. Je suis rentrée à Stras avec Yang et Patrice (arrivée chez moi à 23h30), raison pour laquelle je n'étais pas libre pour décider l'heure de rentrée. C'était donc un peu tard... et c'est frais que j'ai promis de te téléphoner ou te laisser un message après la soirée et au téléphone je t'ai dit "sans doute vers 21h30 ou 22h"...

J'ai encore fait une bêtise? Pourquoi tu ne m'as laissé un message pour me dire bonne nuit? T'es fâché? Mais~~~~ chéri~~~~ s'il te plaît~~~~ je m'excuse~~~~

C'est triste que je ne sois pas avec toi et que ne te vois même pas. J'ai envie de déchirer toute la distance entre nous mais pour l'instant je ne peux qu'attendre, attendre ton message ou ta voix grâce auxquels je peux deviner ton humeur.

Je te donne des bisous, plein de bisous, partout partout partout. Je t'aime, n'oublies pas.

Illness, excuses and Reg

alicehatesyou — Thu, 31 Jul 2008 13:58:42 +0000

Making excuses in advance: stupidly presumptive or just planning ahead?

I'm a little ill at the moment, I feel a bit crappy right now and therefore the amount of writing that's going to be popping up here is limited. I do hope to keep writing here though, I've enjoyed it, even if I've had to force myself at times.

http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=qfaG4CQ6Y1g

Watch that video. Reg Hollis makes me smile :)

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Me and my Mum booked flights for the whole family to Florida this Christmas. I'm so excited!!!

Buy me a holiday home in the States please

Legitimate Excuses for Everyday Life

E. Michael Martin — Mon, 28 Jul 2008 17:41:37 +0000

People actually search for these, so I've come up with some for different situations:

To get out of a party

"Sorry, I'm not up to a party tonight" - Anyone with a brain will realize how stressful parties can be; especially if you run with the high-drama, drunken types. The Real World has nothing on this shit. Of course, if that's who is inviting you, you may need other options.
"I'm doing a detox thing" - Detox's are more and more common these days. What does it mean? It means no drinking alcohol or caffeine. Parties are usually lame if they have neither.
"I don't have the money" - Many parties require that you bring your own beverage. Anything worth drinking is $20 or over. That can add up. Save some money by opting out.
"I have other plans" - This isn't a lie if you come up with some before you say it. Create a code with family members that can help you create plans in a flash. They don't have to work out, but you do need to have them, or the person you're ditching will know you're lying.
"I heard my ex was going, so, I think I'd better not." - This should be last choice. People understand that your ex hurt you, but they may not get why you're letting him or her control you social life. Of course, this only works if you have a recent ex, and the breakup was well-known in your circle. Like I said, steer clear unless you have no other options.

If all else fails, go to the party, mooch booze, and chill for a while, then leave after the buzz dies. Don't get super drunk, and don't do stupid things. Usually you can get back home for a little "you" time. Do not offer to be the driver, or you'll be stuck there all night. Drive yourself. Do not drive drunk!

To get out of a date

"I'm sorry, I'm seeing someone else." - This can be true, if you broaden you sense of "seeing." Look over at another person. See him/ her? You're seeing him/ her now, right? See? You're seeing somebody.
"You're not my type." - This is a classic. Of course, we can't know if they're our type unless we actually go on a date or two, but if the initial impression doesn't do it, why waste the time? Most reasonable people will stop at this line. Others will resist, and whine about it your answer.
"I just want to be friends." - Ooh, the classic. This works if you knew the person previously. Odds are, if they ask you, "just friends" is not enough, and might not ever be. This could spell the end of a friendship.
"No thanks." - The most direct and simple approach. It's short, it's polite, and repeated use will usually make offenders stop asking. After rejection, most people try to get a rise out of you. They can't get sexy passion, but they'll try to get angry passion. Don't let them. Remain calm, cool, and as polite as the first time they asked. They'll get discouraged.
"Jog on, douche-nozzle" - This is not polite, but its colorful nature may work for the tougher crowd, and it definitely gets the point across. The downside is that it may start an altercation, a cat-fight, or a queeny bitch-fest. You have been warned.

So, if you need to get out of a date, you know how. Why would you want to though? Take the opportunity, make them pay. You get a free meal and a chance at happiness. Even in worst-case scenarios, be yourself. Let someone know when they are boring you. You're not obligated to listen to drivel, steer the conversation another direction, or you'll find a fake smile is all too easy to conjure with all the practice you've been having.

To Get Out of a Religious Invite

"I worship in a different way, and it works for me." - This is a polite way of saying that you're not willing to give up your current conventions. You can even go in depth and teach someone about your culture. If you're a religious person, you can use this as an opportunity to spread the word.
"I'm not a religious person." - This works like the first, except it removes the obligation to explain a faith. You could say that you're an atheist, but most people inviting you to church or to the mosque will use that as a cue to pursue you harder.
"I am against organized religion." - This can offend people who think that the organization is the same as God. Conservatives especially see their church structure as a reflection of God's structure in heaven. This means that they believe that turning away from the church is the same as turning away from God. It is not worth talking to these people. You must treat the very religious like the very drunk. Anything can be misconstrued and viewed as an attack on them.
"It does not fit into my schedule" - This one is weak. It works for reasonable people, but church-goers feel that it is worth making time for. Also, many churches and mosques are wise to this excuse and have created a service just for your time slot. Use this as the last polite excuse.
"Get off my porch and leave me alone, you freaking hippie cult!" - This works for Jehovah's Witnesses and Mormons... and anyone who goes door to door. It's not polite, but it's clear and gets the point across. Even better, it saves time.

Asking people to church is like asking them on a date. It's a vivid and very personal part of many people's lives, one they're trying to share with you. Even if the beliefs seem far-fetched, try to escape from it as gracefully as possible. After all, wars have been blamed on religion, and many countries use it as an excuse to beat each other up (though we know it's actually for land and resources). Church goers are not afraid to condemn you to hell for your refusal. Some will go so far as to use rumors and blackmail to destroy your life until you have no choice but to cry to a higher power in desperation. On the other, hand, you could always go and have a nice, long laugh.

I'm back

soulbiscuit — Mon, 28 Jul 2008 17:13:17 +0000

In case anyone has wondered why I haven't updated for several weeks, I was travelling in Ecuador, including the Galapagos. Yes, it was incredible, and yes, I will write some posts about it! It's been rather daunting trying to reintegrate myself into my normal life, after seventeen solid days of one adventure after another, but I'll do my best to get back on track.

Watch this space!

So if diets don't work..then what does?

Mish — Mon, 28 Jul 2008 13:38:39 +0000

I was searching around NYTimes online and came across this article "Rethinking Diets, Weight Loss and Health"

http://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2008/07/25/rethinking-diets-weight-loss-and-health/

I have been 'dieting' for the past eightish years on and off. I started out at 290lbs and have worked my way down to 175lbs. The thing is that throughout my time, I have had different increments and levels of weight loss, in pounds. 290-250, then 250-210, then 210-190 and now 190-175...ending around 158-160. I started out doing Atkins and aerobics class, but have lost the remainder (250-175) on WeightWatchers coupled with exercise. I have had plateaus of around 3 years at the tops and 10 months at the lowest...I have fluctuated around 10-15lbs in between but have NEVER gained what I've lost back. I am currently climbing my way out of the last one...bad week last week..awful actually..but I am back now :)

This article is of interest to me, because it highlights some of the popular diets out there and has found that after a 2 year study most people only lost between 6-10lbs...mainly men.

Some things to ponder:

1. Were they allowed to exercise?

2. How old were they?

3. What outside eating was happening?

I recognise and realise that dieting is very hard. INCREDIBLY HARD but ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE. Just like binging is possible, so is working out. Just like giving up is possible, so is sticking to it. The thing which frustrates me most is that people assume that dieting is just TOO hard for them. So either A) they give up B) blame weight gain on other things (hormones, family history, recent events, travelling, etc.) C) have surgery to make them stop eating.

HOW ABOUT DIET AND EXERCISE?

Well, that requires discipline, non fatty foods (most of the time) and an inability to indulge in the modern day pleasures of sitting around and eating...yes that is how many of us relax. Since we don't actually have to expend any energy to accomplish most of the jobs in the modern world and there's more food to eat then we know what to do with (for most of us) well let us indulge...because we had a stressful day, I haven't had a cookie all week (it's only Tuesday), I have already had a bad day..I'LL START TOMORROW. Yes, even I succumb to such things...yes even I struggle (red wine).

BUT...I will NEVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER go back to what I was. NEVER! That is what motivates me. I am motivated by the fact that I can run a race (see posting below), that I get compliments, that I feel good, sexy, attractive, IN CONTROL.

What frustrates me, is that we justify all the time:

"Gina says some people who have tried unsuccessfully to lose weight may decide to say to themselves, “I can be attractive. I can buy clothes. I can be fit. I can be healthy. I can have a good life, and I may not be skinny, but so what.”

I agree with the above statement..but through caution all over it. "I may not be skinny, but so what" is sandwhiched in with "I can be fit. I can be healthy". The danger in proclaiming this, although people can do, is that many people define 'fit' and 'healthy' outside of the justifiable expectations and definitions of this word in order to rationalise not cutting back, working out or being 'thin'.

So, I end with this

1. Dieting is hard

2. It's not impossible

3. It's good ole fashioned balance...work out, eat healthy, indulge one in awhile, understand why you're eating

4. Never give up to excuses which enable unhealthy behaviour and perceptions about self

http://rowansimpson.com/2008/07/06/first-things-first/

5. You can't out exercise a horrible diet (in most cases)

6. If I can do it..ANYONE CAN!

I hope this will be a satisfying website

LiLi — Mon, 28 Jul 2008 00:43:21 +0000

I find it hard to do a good job when I don't have a satisfying tools to do it with. I don't know how to program, and on blogger.com their layouts variety is pretty limited. After stumbling upon a few blogs that are working with WordPress, I was impressed. I liked their design I noticed they all came from the same place: WordPress. I hope, and want to believe that "their layouts variety is pretty limited" wasn't just an excuse for me to why not really jump in and work on my blog. And now, I'll finally get serious. I believe I have a lot of interesting things to say and share with everyone.

ceti mintak utang

abanglong — Thu, 24 Jul 2008 03:18:07 +0000

these are some of the excuses my clients talk cock to me when i asked for the payments... read on

documents hilang

the alliens somehow kidnap the documents. DO, INVOICE,GRN and semua documents related to the payments. most of the time it was the documents that i re submitted; certified tru copy; sent by hand!. so need to sent again and have to wait again

engineering tak submit forms

they need to match goods recieve notes from engineering dpt. to match with the invoices. and secara tiba tiba their engineering departments are relocated to antartika which would take twenty eight years to deliver anything.

DO from recieving tak dapat

again, the delivery need to be signed by those recieving ppl which were all tak ada tangan and kaki. so they could not sent the signed documents to accounts.

boss tak sign

boss maybe too miskin to buy a pen to sign the cheque. dakwat pen dah habis so takleh nak sign chek la kaan!!

check dah ready tapi satu signature lagi belum sign

this is a problem when they need two signature on one cheque. one dah sign but the other one tu maybe ikut syed muzafar g holiday kat space.pastu takdek tiket, so kena tunggu next available flight la

boss tak masuk office

the boss might be forgotten the jalan to office. so he tak jumpa his office and tak leh masuk office. tak masuk office maka tak leh sign chek!

boss cuti

cuti boss terlalu banyak. aside from two months leave, he must take another cuti on alternate weekdays. damn busy laa the boss !

documents atas meja boss

maybe meja boss was too crowded with the documents,papers,porno,tenders,spec sheets etc. so he could not use his table anymore.maka dokument payment takleh sign

accounts tak masuk office

maybe their account guys have to work as a security guard at nights, maka bila siang they all penat and tak dapat masuk office.

HQ belum approve

hq had the final say in everthing. they even decide what underwear color u must wear.so if they dont approve means dont approve.

payments in progress

they live in sub zero temperature. so all the pergerakan is damn slow due to kesejukan. nak pass one documents to other department would requires 20 million calories. so lambat la kan

call back next week

this one quite famous. berapa banyak next week they all have i also dont know. next week next week next week

end of the week

they live in a new planet. satu minggu they all bersamaan lima bulan kat earth.

dah courier

apparently they assigned a courier service based in nigeria which had a storage office in remote area of sudan. so; it would take five months to get a letter from shah alam to puchong.

accounts cuti

the accounts ppl must be working hell out of themselves. so they need to cuti on every mondays, teusdays and wednesdays.thursdays and fridays they MC coz they really tired.

cheque book habis

maybe we need to talk to the banks or bank negara should issue a statements to all banks in malaysia. apparently, all banks in malaysia issue a cheque book yang only ada 2 keping cheque. if habis the book, my customers ni need to do a declaration to BPR, kastam, rela, JAWI, penghulu kampung and to get approval dari pemandu teksi in order to apply new cheque books from the banks..

dakwat printer habis

this one, aku nak gelak ada aku nak marah pun ada. time nak print documents utk payment, secara tiba tiba semua printer, network printer,laser printer dekat office tu habis dakwat !!!!

officer dah resign

staff turn over rate is high la. so every ten minutes a new account guy akan start kerja and resigned. dia baru kerja so dia tak tau lagi about past documents.

i'll call you back

hah! jangan harap. maybe the company prepaid phone dah takdek credit dah.

need to add more ???

Stop Interrupting Me! (Or The Delusion That You’re a Good Listener.)

sheenatabraham — Mon, 21 Jul 2008 18:25:41 +0000

Do you ever run into that person who thinks she’s the world’s best listener? Everyone tells her their problems, she says. She patiently listens, then offers sound advice, real perspective.

But secretly, you wonder if she’s deluding herself. Because as far as you know, she barely listens to what you or others say.

We tend to pick our most positive moments and use them to paint our entire personality.

I have had my moments as a good listener, but I also had to come to a point where I realized I interrupted too much. For example, if I had a thought that was too good to keep inside, I would jump in without letting the other person finish. Sometimes I was afraid the person would move on to the next topic before I got a chance to get my two cents in. And I assumed the conversation was very fluid, where I could hear what the person was saying even if I talked at the same time, and vice versa. No need to wait until one person was done before I spoke.

I was making up my own rules of conversation, without realizing how it would affect the other person. My lovely husband Sajan helped me face this fact and stop making excuses.

Take a look at the “Are You a Good Listener?” checklist below from Toastmasters. Where do you fall?

Do you think the results would vary if you rated yourself versus if someone else rated you?

For each question, give three points if your answer is “Always,” two points for “Sometimes,” and one point for “Never.”

The Good Listener Checklist

I focus my attention on the speaker and don’t think about anything else.
I do not anticipate what the speaker is going to say before he/she actually says it.
I wait until the speaker has finished to formulate my response.
I look the speaker in the eye, nod my head and smile, while listening, to show the speaker I’m interested.
I do not do other tasks while someone is talking to me.
I listen carefully to the speaker even when I disagree with what is being said.
When the speaker has finished, I summarize what he/she has said to ensure I understood correctly.
I ask questions when I am not sure about something the speaker said.

22 to 24 points: Congratulations! You’re an excellent listener.
17 to 21 points: Your skills need some attention.
16 points or less: It’s time to make some improvements.

(From the Toastmasters manual A Practical Guide to Becoming A Better Leader.)

LISTEN TO THIS and Bonus Excuse: Thriving Ivory

pnogal32 — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 13:19:49 +0000

Thriving Ivory is a band straight from San Fran, California, with nothing to prove. The band has a unique sound and uses abstract consepts to create it. When I first saw the video for their first single, "Angels on the Moon", I was surprised by the keyboards, and how they completely changed the song from a regular song to a true ballad. I have to say, the vocals aren't much my cup of tea, but they're great to listen to with the lyrics. The band reminds me a lot of Augustana and Coldplay, in that they use the piano to it's full potential and really tell a story with their lyrics and melodies.

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Also, I'm so sorry I haven't really done much with Listen to This this week. I recently got a new computer, and it's a laptop with 200 MB of space, so I don't really have room for iTunes. I'll try to keep up this week.

Sistani opposes Iraq-US security deal

abufazl — Wed, 09 Jul 2008 13:28:36 +0000

Iraq's most senior cleric voices opposition to a proposed security deal with the US, saying such a deal would threaten Iraq's sovereignty.

In a meeting with Iraqi national security adviser Muwaffaq Al-Rubaie on Tuesday, Grand Ayatollah Ali Sistani expressed his concerns over the security deal by calling it an excuse that will justify the presence of US forces in Iraq.

Ayatollah Sistani had earlier noted that any long-term pact with the US should observe four key terms: safeguarding Iraqis' interests, national sovereignty, national consensus, and parliament approval.

On Monday, Iraqi Prime Minister Nouri al-Maliki suggested a timetable for the departure of US forces from Iraq.

However, Washington played down calls for a firm withdrawal deadline, saying any pullout will be based on the conditions on the ground.

"We're looking at conditions, not calendars here," State Department spokesman Gonzalo Gallegos said on Tuesday.

Baghdad and Washington are negotiating a treaty that would allow the American troops to stay in Iraq after their mandate under the UN expires in December 2008.

The controversial security deal has faced fierce opposition from Iraqi religious and political figures who believe the deal would turn the country into a US colony.

MMS/PA

www.insight-info.com

Rogue bug catchers caught

zayzayem — Wed, 09 Jul 2008 07:04:08 +0000

via NatureNews

Bugs are cool, but the general idea of entomology seems a little like Japanese whale research. You catch your subject and viciously kill it. Only Japanese whalers don't then leave a collection of ceteceans stuck with a giant harpoon through the chest on the side of there boat on display for all to see remarking at its natural beauty.

So to hear that two Czech entomologists are now languishing in an Indian jail does bring about a cruel sense of irony. Does India impose death penalty by giant magnifying glass?

The fate of at least one of the pair has been getting some serious attention. A petition of over 600 scientists is calling for Petr Svacha's release.

Svacha and his colleague were arrested for collecting specimens inside a national park. According to some reports he was collecting endangered species, and according to others he was supplying Chinese herbalists. His equipment was also confiscated, presumably as evidence.

Svacha says he was doing legitimate scientific research on common organisms with no commercial value, and if anything the bugs are pests. There was no signage indicating he was in a national park, and he saw evidence of logging and livestock grazing in the area.

He is having difficulty with his state appointed lawyer and is attempting to find appropriate representation. The petition also mentions Svacha as being in a frail state. It seems like a tragic affair.

However I'm having a little trouble feeling sympathetic. If Svacha is such an impeccable entymologist working for the Academy of Sciences of the Czech Republic you would think he would attempt to be familiar with local laws and national park boundaries near where he was collecting. Ignorance really doesn't cut it as an excuse when you hold a PhD.

Additionally the petition makes no mention of the other scientist, who is older than Svacha by around 12 months - so presumably just as frail. Credentials are not get out jail free cards.

Image credit: Gary Larson's Far Side