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I am NOT the most fashionable guy in the world.

Usually it is my girlfriend who pick the clothes for me - not for my benefit...

... so that if we go out in public together she will not feel embarrassed!

If I were the one to pick my clothes, I'd rather pick the sweats and t-shirt, coupled with my old worn sneakers. I mean, I think fashion is silly.

I definitely appreciate the artistic aspect of fashion style and design. It is like a work of art when I look at a very well dressed woman, I dig that.

I kinda lose respect when a guy is "too stylish."

Don't misinterpret me, a man should present himself like he means to be taken seriously. A nice suit, good quality, well-fitting clothes are a basic of being a masculine.

But some guys take this so much.

Case in point, the obsession with "peacocking" in the pickup Community for the past several years.

It makes me cringe when I hear this term.

YOU ARE NOT A PEACOCK.

Let me explain what is "peacocking," in case you're not familiar.

There was an emergence of routine-based "game" a while ago that rely heavily on superficial techniques, status games, and over-analysis of social interactions.

This always gone in the opposite direction and I never saw the value of it.

Reason for this is that I saw how pretending to be someone other than yourself, and saying jokes and routines that other guys came up with JUST FELT WRONG.

On top of that, the FIRST FOCUS of all that strategy and game-playing was to eventually get approval from women, while making them feel insecure so they'd think you were cooler than them.

Think about the layers in the dating approach. Not only are you faking your personality because you

a) look for approval (as if girls were an authority on what makes man a man)

b) hide the truth that you're looking for approval

c) play games with women so that they will seek your approval when they feel insecure

YUCK

"Peacock," is one of the main techniques of this approach as to dress up in a really loud, ostentatious way so that women would "notice" you and want to talk to you.

Wearing a nice watch, or a necklace isn't a bad thing because some have personal meaning.

But I never do that just to make women like me.

I'm sure many guys have seen the advocates of this approach on TV shows,straining to make sense out of this hare-brained "technique."

I felt sad to the students of other pickup schools that I've encountered because these poor guys were not only nervous, clumsy, misdirected...they looked RETARDED.

So I'd like to set a record when it comes to fashion and meeting girls.

There are only few things that you need to focus when it comes to your appearance.

After knowing this stuff, you should put it out of your mind and TAKE ACTION before women can notice you.

Before moving on, I have something to expose.

(To be Continued in Part 2)

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What I liked:

1. Mystery's Ridiculous Outfits. No one can peacock like mystery, hands down. The shows budget really allows for some fancy stuff. I dig it. Peacocking that hard is actually quite a challenge. Don't believe me? Go to your local lair and look at all the guys who try it and get it wrong. It's a  trainwreck.

2. The Challenges. Creative, fun and entertaining. Winner of one contest gets to walk around with a cute puppy in the next. Hillarious.

3. The Students. I love pick up students in general, they're always so eager to learn, share a common interest with me, and so grateful for the even the smallest amounts of improvement they make. Students are hands down the #1 reason why I do what I do.

What I didn't like:

1. J-Dog's hair. I don't think I need to go into this. Looks like the poor dude passed out on a park bench in the middle of a graffiti contest. While there were certainly things about this show that bug the working pick up artist in me, I have to hand it to Mystery and VH1 for presenting the community in a good light to a mainstream audience.

2. Using 4 year old, tired-out material, like "flossing before you brush etc.." Come on, we stopped using that stuff 3 years ago for GOOD reason! LAME, non-sensual conversation that goes NOWHERE! Sure you'll get the girl to answer your question, but that's not always what I call PROGRESS. If you're going to have the guys memorizing routines, why not make them powerful, masculine and effective?

3. Mystery not knowing why some of his students fail... He's so attached to his structured method, he literally has blind spots as to why his students get blown out... "Yeah he should have used a false time constraint". How about his lame body language, complete lack of masculine vibe and messed up compliance ratios?

Out of the four dudes left, here's some predictions:

Alvaro: This guy COULD become a master pua, but not in a few weeks, and not under Mystery's tuleage. He's got that "inner flame" that drives him to excel at different things, but he's going to need to really work to get consistent, and kill his approach anxiety and fear. He's still got the brakes on. The minute he gets past that, his game will explode.

Brady: Tall, good looking, fast learner. He's chill, makes steady progress. His use of corny material, and constant second guessing of himself is what's holding himself back. If he just chills out and acts NORMAL he'll be on fire. Again though, like joe, will probably become complacent at a certain level.

Joe: I think this guy has got serious potential on the show. He's got the attitude down, but he's the type that will get a certain level of success and become complacent. He'll get a girlfriend and develop his social circle and work off that. Not TRUE master pua material. I just don't see the kind of passion/drive that would carry him to Master PUAdom. He may do well on the show, however, just due to the lack of competition.

Pradeep: Could become a master pua, but he's gotta seriously increase his sensuality. He's in the friend zone still. Doesn't matter if he got that chick's number on the show because that was FRIENDLY number close. He's interesting but... too interesting. It's giving the woman something to be attracted to, but those things are too exterior to get that deep physical attraction that a pua needs to do fast pulls, sensual selection switching, multiple relationship stuff, etc...

Overall, the show is super entertaining and I'll definitely love to see another episode if I can.

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"Unfortunately, due to absurd, unnatural, feminist-inspired North American laws which run contrary to our natural biological urges, men are restricted from groping women at
will. Therefore, it is imperative that the touching be consensual. The key is getting women to feel both comfortable and aroused at the thought of being treated like a piece of meat at a slave auction."

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See the full ad for the August meeting here.

And, because I can't resist the opportunity to laugh at Dimitri the Lover, here's a voicemail of him darn near stalking a woman in the San Francisco area (allegedly). I'm assuming this woman was immune to his seduction techniques.

What I will share with you will really helps paint the picture and get your audience more involved. This techniques is about adding TOUCH to your stories.

An example of this would be like "My friend and I were walking over there like this... (lock arm in arm)."

If you are using something like this arm and arm example, you would only do it for that short instance, not tell the rest of the story arm and arm. And remember, only hold whatever touch you are displaying for the appropriate part of the story.

An example I would use in my story is when describing his weirdness would be "I would be talking with some of my friends and he would come up from behind me, stick his arm around me like this (put arm on girls shoulder and pull her in, give her a little shake, showing exactly what he did to me).

In order for you not to look obvious is to continue telling your story while initiating the touch, and not looking at where you are touching or pausing and waiting for any form of reaction.

Another fun thing to add into your stories is subtle hints that raise your desirability.

These include mentioning other women in your life, having special social privileges, being the leader of your group, and doing things that make you stand out.

Most often I am mentioning other women in my stories. You can do this by changing the word "friend" to "girlfriend" or name dropping by saying "my friends Lisa and Sarah" anything along those lines.

These are all essentially tasteful ways to brag in your stories... without actually bragging. Now you don't need these but in some cases can add a special flare to your stories.

It just have to be subtle and never the subject of your story. They are just minor details.

To make them theme authentic, do not provide an explanation for them. If part of your story involves you hooking up with multiple people, don't provide an explanation for it, instead just keep talking, it's not the focus on the story and by not providing an explanation, it comes off as a perfectly natural thing that is no big deal.

Once you have thrown in all these fun storytelling tactics it time to give it the once over.

Eliminate all unnecessary content including all redundancies and make sure your story is moving along and does not drag out. That is the biggest problem people make, they drag their stories out too long about things that don't affect the overall story.

For now just aim for about 2 minutes stories.

How much you share all depends on how your storytelling skills develop. An expert storyteller could captivate the audience for 20 minutes. But for now, focus on getting 2-3 solid minutes of your audiences attention.

Remember to look for clues of people fading out so you know when to speed things up and get to the punch line.

Always make sure you are keeping eye contact, this will help hold the audiences attention.

Here is the FINAL revised version of my story.:

Me: "Hey guys...how do you deal with people when you just caaaaannt get them to leave you alone?!"

Group: "blah blah"

Me: "Yeah that's interesting so check this out...the other day I am at Club Voodoo, you ever been? (Check in point)...Cool, anyway I walk in with a group of my friend Lisa and some friends she brought along. There is a decent amount of people in the club, we are all having a great time and meeting lots of cool new people.

Well this one guy somehow works his into my "group" and he just has this annoying vibe. Like he is so out of place, he was walking around with a Harley Davison Motorcycle hat on and like this tainted banana colored polo. You know when someone just clearly does not belong and seems out of place... kind of like that guy (Put arm on person from audiences shoulder and point to someone else outside the audience)

So my friends and I keep trying to avoid him but he just won't back down, he would just follow us everywhere we went, buzzing around like a mosquito...with a really bad taste in clothing...like you have no idea how bad it was, I would be talking to some of Lisa's friends and he would come up, stick his head between us and wrap us both in his arms and give us a little shake like this...(Do exactly what he did on them) And the worst part is he had this nasty...thick breath....oh it was terrible.

(Random Story Telling Tip: Appeal to the senses, especially the smell, it is the least addressed and most memorable.) Anyway... my friends and I try to get away by going to the VIP floor and we have been drinking the free energy drinks all night and made a super tall pyramid out of cans.  (Illustrate structure with arms).

Then all of a sudden, the creepy guy weasels his way onto the floor and sits down at our table... and like a jackass he tries to add a can to the structure. (Start slowing things down for the punch line)

Little did he know... that although the Red Bull on the top of the structure was opened... it was full... so this guy tries to add his can to the top then BAM!...................the whole structure falls right into his lap and the filled soda can pours all over his crotch!

(Create dramatic spill scene around your crotch, getting the girl to look there, although sneaky, creates lots of subtle sensual messages)

It looked like he wet his pants!

His face turns beat red and he just runs downstairs and we assume he left the club cause we didn't see him again... I don't know what the big deal is...I thought it was hilarious!

(Share a good laugh with your audience, initiate more touch if you so please, initiating touch during laughter is very powerful)

If we look back at the original example of...

"So the other day I am at club voodoo with my friends and I am going around making some new friends and having a good time. Well this one guy somehow works his way into my group but then ends up not leaving us alone all night, and he was a really annoying person that you just don't want to talk to. He kept making every interaction in the club awkward and would not leave until he actually gets a hint and goes home."

You can see the dramatic changes these steps can make to any story.

Before giving you a conclusion of this long newsletter....I want to leave you with a couple advanced story telling tips.

-If you are telling the same story, increase vocabulary in it, use powerful verbs and adjectives to bring the story to life.

-Always be painting a picture, if possible appeal to all the senses.

-Start your stories at the end. If you ever saw the movie Fight Club you will notice how you are caught up into the story right from the beginning because you are curious to see how Edward Norton's character got himself in such a dangerous situation. You can start your story at the end then build up to really captivate your audience.

-The more emotion you put into a story the better, the more emotion you show in a story, the more mistakes you can make because your emotion and commitment to the story covers all that up.

-Avoid pauses like "ummmm and ugghhh" everyone has a bad habit when they stumble in there stories.

-Do not memorize your stories. You don't want to sound like you are reading from a script, you want it to seem natural. It is possible to be too good at telling your stories and then it is almost like the listener is watching a scripted play. Just understand the concepts and events of your story, there should always be some slight differences when you tell your story. Practice telling it...but don't become a scripted narrator.

-Lastly and most important to sum things up....

Do not tell your stories AT your audience...tell your stories TO your audience.

Always make sure they are involved and as you are telling your story, keep your eyes open for cues in the interaction you do not always have time to look for.

Use these cues to find what points of your stories get certain reactions, and use them to move the story along. You pick up on different things if you are telling a story you know well, this is another way storytelling continues to improve your game.

The pick-up line originated in the mid 1970's when two Americans, in preparation for a night out at the Montreal clubs, flipped through a French-English dictionary to figure out how to ask French Canadians if they want to have sex. They came up with "Do you want to go to bed with me?" or "Voulez-vous coucher avec moi?" Unfortunately the two men in question were extremely ugly and ended up being turned down by every woman they met that evening...including two or three prostitutes who when later asked said they preferred the honest approach of a simple hello. Luckily, for the two men in question they turned their sexual woes into the smash hit "Lady Marmalade" and even though no women ever believed them when they tried to impress them with their songwriting credits they ended up very rich...and alone.

Preferred A Simple Hello

The pick-up line has since evolved into an increasingly awkward yet charming art with literally thousands of permutations on the original formula. Most of these enticing inquiries are only successful when the person doing the wooing is dressed in a ridiculous outfit and has had his or her tips professionally frosted.

The following is a list of some of the more popular pick up lines that are sure to help you achieve the friendly and trendy goal of getting the object of your affection to notice you because you'll be talking to them.

1. Yo bitch...Can I holla?

2. I can see your pants in that mirror...I'm in that mirror. I think both me and your pants are in that mirror.

3. You're pretty like Stevie Nicks.

Stevie Nicks...The Current Gold Standard of Beauty

4. I'm Enrique Iglesias.

5. Shall I phone you or nudge you?

6. When we get out of jail...I'm going to love you forever...if we get out of jail.

7. I lease a '95 Chrysler Sebring.

'95 Sebring- The Crown Jewel of Chrysler

8. When you stepped out of heaven did they have to kill someone to make an angel to replace you...because I think killing is morally reprehensible.

9. When in Rome or wherever it is we are, do me.

10. Twenty dollars for one song!

Hopefully, these lines can be of some assistance in curing your lovelorn state...but you'll never know unless you get out there and put them to the test. The proof is in the trendly pudding.

And it's quite sad.

There are lots of women that has the potential to become a great girlfriend.

But I had my head higher than my ass.

...maybe that's a little harsh.

But this comes down from TWO distinct problems:

First, I was trying to prove something to myself. I was still a recovering nerd. And I've never fully recovered. But I've stopped trying to recover. And that's what's made me move past this "proving myself" thing.

I just accepted who I am.

Sure, I like video games and comic books.

But...

Do you think women have cooler interests?

Is getting drunk, Myspace and shopping is cooler than what I'm into?

It's all relative.

Self-acceptance is what really matters.

A woman won't accept you if you don't accept yourself.

Can you picture out a woman wanting to be your girlfriend and you don't like yourself?

She will HATE your presence and don't want to be around you.

Because if you don't like yourself, you can't really like her. And if you do like her, but not yourself, then you look like a total loser. And who wants to date a loser?

It may sound easy, but self-acceptance is hard to do. How many times have you hear these from people "I don't care what anyone thinks of me!"

Almost NO ONE accepts themselves completely, that's in my experience.

And I am one of them.

How you accept yourself is how women find you attractive, and people likes to be around you.

It may be hard to completely accept yourself. There is an old beliefs creep in and saying you are not enough, that you must be more than yourself now.

The degree to which your game becomes better is if you know the degree to which you stop these thoughts.

Because game is really about being yourself, not doubting yourself. And game doesn't stop after your opener, after "mating", after a few dates. It never stops.

Because it is you.

You are not divided from your game.

The "game" is the degree to which you can express who you really are. Your game IS YOU.

You might be thinking "But I'm insecure, nervous and awkward."  I disagree. That's not you.

That is the indistinct you.

That's you trying to come out, but your old mental habits and ego stop you in expressing what you really want to express.

Before I proceed deeper, I want first to go to the second reason why I couldn't keep girls around after sleeping with them.

I wasn't aware of shaping.

Knowing what you want is really just an extension of self-acceptance. And shaping is all about knowing what YOU want. If you don't know what you want, you can't shape.

In fact, it is self-acceptance, applied to others. You encourage women to do to you what you like if you know what you like also.

You see, women are very flexible. They have many sides that they can reveal to a man. Men usually implicitly tell women to be selfish, mean, and act like they are better than the man.

But it's not really her fault. She's just doing what she's told. Women are always looking to men to get a sense of reality.

So if you approach and treat a woman like a pedestal, she will act accordingly.

If you approach a woman and treat her like she's lucky that you approached her, she will feel that way.

Same through after mating, if you treat her like she should stay in your life and nurture your lifestyle, she will do so.

This was tackled deeper in our workshop. I've developed a lot of things to shape a woman to be EXACTLY the kind of woman I want in my life.

And women are different from each other. For example, I may want another woman to be a sugar mama! I may want one woman to be just a partner in bed. I may want another one to be a girlfriend. It all depends on what we want.

I think of all the crappy, frustrating relationships I used to have.

I remember all the hookups I had as a young pickup artist, and how frustrating it was to not see those women again.

But once I began to accept myself and figure out what I wanted, it all came together.

The Attraction Code is a about figuring out who you are, accepting and cultivating your character, and then applying that to the women you want to meet, date, and sleep with.

The Attraction Code is a MUST HAVE if you are struggling with self acceptance and letting the real YOU shine.